Life Gives You What You Tolerate
Some lines you hear once and forget. Others follow you around for days. Last week, our team heard one of the second kind.
We got together for an Ed Mylett watch party. Plenty of good ideas came out of it, but one quote stuck with all of us more than anything else:
“Life gives you what you tolerate.”
It sounds simple. It isn’t. Because if it’s true, then a lot of what we complain about in our business and our lives isn’t happening to us. It’s happening because we allow it.
What are you tolerating?
That’s the question I’ve been sitting with since. And I’d ask you to sit with it too. Be honest about whether you’re tolerating any of these:
- Inconsistency. Strong weeks followed by quiet ones, with no real system in between.
- People around you who don’t meet your standards. The standard you accept from others quietly becomes your own.
- Follow-ups that slip. The call you meant to make. The client you meant to check in on.
- Effort below what you’re capable of. You know where your ceiling is. Are you working anywhere near it?
None of these show up as a crisis. That’s exactly why they’re dangerous. They just become normal.
A few other lines that stuck with us
“Unrealistic people rule the world.”
Realistic goals feel safe. But almost everything worth building started with someone who refused to accept what everyone else called realistic.
“Are you willing to do the ‘ugly’?”
The “ugly” is the work people who lose don’t want to do. The unglamorous calls. The tedious details. The discipline when nobody is watching. It’s rarely the talent that separates people. It’s the willingness to do the ugly.
“Great leaders help instill something in others before they see it in themselves.”
This one hit me as a leader. Part of the job is seeing potential in someone before they can see it, and holding that belief long enough for them to catch up to it.
“Life gives you what you fight for.”
It’s the other side of the first quote. If life gives you what you tolerate, it also gives you what you refuse to let go of.
Why I watch it twice a year
I personally watch this video twice a year. That’s how powerful it is. Every time, a different line lands, because I’m in a different place than I was the last time.
Here’s a copy for yourself:
If you watch it, I’d love to know which line hit you the most. Share it in the comments.
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